1) I would not criticize my children for who they are, instead if I see fit, I would give them constructive feedbacks to build them up, never to break them apart.
2) I would not remind my children of their failure in life however small I might think it was and take it against them. Especially in front of anybody else. Or even to joke around.
3) I would remind my children that I love them everyday, if not every hour of my living life, in any way possible, any way so they would realize it.
4) I would never burden my children of my own mistakes and make them feel responsible for it.
5) I would never hold my kids guilty for not giving me money or any material figure so they can show me their appreciation for raising them.
6) I would make myself available for my children in every occasion during they will be needing me however petty/unimportant/insignificant that occasion is to me at the time.
7) I would lend my ear and soul for them during when they need mine to help them go through life, however simple I think that is at the time.
(set phrase) A linguistic or conceptual distinction which is of no practical importance or which has no effect on meaning; a perceived difference where there is no actual difference.
Wednesday, August 1, 2018
Middle of the night ramble
I'm afraid of people.
Specifically, I'm afraid of their judgements, words, and accusations.
I try to be nice and play along even when their judgements hurt me.
I try to look past through them but when thrown with it everyday I'll start to believe that they are real.
Sometimes I will brave myself to utter some words to defend what is left of me.
Or sometimes I slide in a few jokes to tell them that it's not okay to say that to me.
But I guess they look past that too, because they did it again today.
Tuesday, June 12, 2018
5 magic words
When I was 13 I was enrolled into a boarding school and was sent hundreds of kilometers away from the most comfortable space I called 'home'.
I then realized that that was the most profound turning point that brought me where I am today, to which I would never change, whatever comes my way. I am exactly where I want to be. But that story is for another day.
I also learned that there actually was magic, if not in its real form, to which I have been fed before then but in the form of literature. We know it by the name of 'WORD'. Yes, at the boarding school I learned, that there are 5 magic words.
The initials of the 5s are S.T.E.P.S, but the greatness of each was in no particular order. Now is where I am going to tell you what are the steps.
S- Salam
T- THANK YOU
E- Excuse me
P- Please
S- Sorry
Where are the magic? You might ask. But trust me, the magic of these words lie in our daily lives, instilled in our very being, only if we know where and how to use it. But the most important is, whether or not we use it.
Anyway today I'm gonna just emphasize on one magic word and let you folks figure out the rest by yourselves.
See the one with ALL CAPS? Yes that one.
I find it very irritating and disgusting when people who should be using that word during certain times in their lives fail to utter the very simple two syllables.
I also find it repulsive to these people who earn what they desire or just receiving something that helped them in any ways but have no common sense of saying it, let alone trying to pay the debt as a symbolic gesture.
I always admire the wests, and also the Japanese, in some ways because most of them, they breath the word 'thank you' like its almost the air they 'exhale' after they 'inhale' kind deed from other people.
This habit of saying thank you is what I think a humble human being should have in their core, as their base, in whatever way they wish to express it.
Sadly, this is not common from where I belong, literally and definitely, figuratively.
I then realized that that was the most profound turning point that brought me where I am today, to which I would never change, whatever comes my way. I am exactly where I want to be. But that story is for another day.
I also learned that there actually was magic, if not in its real form, to which I have been fed before then but in the form of literature. We know it by the name of 'WORD'. Yes, at the boarding school I learned, that there are 5 magic words.
The initials of the 5s are S.T.E.P.S, but the greatness of each was in no particular order. Now is where I am going to tell you what are the steps.
S- Salam
T- THANK YOU
E- Excuse me
P- Please
S- Sorry
Where are the magic? You might ask. But trust me, the magic of these words lie in our daily lives, instilled in our very being, only if we know where and how to use it. But the most important is, whether or not we use it.
Anyway today I'm gonna just emphasize on one magic word and let you folks figure out the rest by yourselves.
See the one with ALL CAPS? Yes that one.
I find it very irritating and disgusting when people who should be using that word during certain times in their lives fail to utter the very simple two syllables.
I also find it repulsive to these people who earn what they desire or just receiving something that helped them in any ways but have no common sense of saying it, let alone trying to pay the debt as a symbolic gesture.
I always admire the wests, and also the Japanese, in some ways because most of them, they breath the word 'thank you' like its almost the air they 'exhale' after they 'inhale' kind deed from other people.
This habit of saying thank you is what I think a humble human being should have in their core, as their base, in whatever way they wish to express it.
Sadly, this is not common from where I belong, literally and definitely, figuratively.
Monday, May 21, 2018
An evening on the beach
The four of us were sitting on the edge of a beach, with our little diaries
in our hands, writing our hearts out. The girls were using their favorite
color pencils while we borrowed some of theirs that they left in the box.
in our hands, writing our hearts out. The girls were using their favorite
color pencils while we borrowed some of theirs that they left in the box.
We wrote how the day started, the places we visited, and the people we met.
I glanced at Sarina's page and saw little drawings of us 4 blended with
the Sun and the Sea and I felt warmth in my heart.
Then I took another glance at Arisa's and I saw more use of
the Sun and the Sea and I felt warmth in my heart.
Then I took another glance at Arisa's and I saw more use of
new words written in it, and I felt a hint of proud in me.
They are taking our world by storm, these two.
From the day they were born and
From the day they were born and
I pray they will never cease to do so.
And then I asked them to write something important, I said.
And then I asked them to write something important, I said.
This time I told them to think hard and take as long as they wanted to
and Mommy will wait until they decide that they are done.
and Mommy will wait until they decide that they are done.
This statement, I read it in a book written by Stephen Covey a few years ago.
I learned to write a personal mission statement of myself at that time so
I'd be a better person in the future, a person who is proactive instead of reactive,
who begins everything in her life with the end in her mind.
This one page instilled in me a sense of mission, a sense of clarity,
organization and commitment, exhilaration and freedom.
I'd be a better person in the future, a person who is proactive instead of reactive,
who begins everything in her life with the end in her mind.
This one page instilled in me a sense of mission, a sense of clarity,
organization and commitment, exhilaration and freedom.
I hope that this page also help my girls to feel the same and help them in their life throughout with choices that they will face, with problem that they will encounter, and with people that they will meet.
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